Nov 23, 2016

Baby Girl Sees Snow for the First Time, After Doctors Said She’d Never Make It

Image Source: Johanna Morton
Image Source: Johanna Morton

It was the day before Christmas Eve last year when Johanna Morton went in for the ultrasound that would change everything. At 12 weeks pregnant, Johanna thought the appointment would be “filled with happy tears and laughter.” Instead, a terrible reality set in when the doctors found heart problems in her baby girl, telling Johanna: “You will miscarry.”

“I left the office in tears and heartbroken,” Johanna wrote in a post on the Love What Matters Facebook page. But her little girl was a fighter from the very beginning, and her little heart continued to beat, however slowly.

The doctors told Johanna and her husband Craig, “She’s going to be stillborn. Save yourself the pain.” But Johanna says, “I never gave ending the pregnancy a second thought, no matter how many times we were offered.”

The Morton’s little girl continued to fight, bringing joy when they passed the 28-week mark. At that point, Johanna said, “If she were to be born alive, she would at least have a percent chance of surviving even if just a few hours.”

Image Source: Johanna Morton
Image Source: Johanna Morton

Their baby girl battled throughout a long and scary pregnancy, until she was born via C-section on June 14th at 37 weeks. Johanna told Babble that her husband chose her name, Clara Ray.

“We went back and forth between Claire and Clara. Clara, meaning bright or clear, seemed to fit more because if she lived or not, she was and is the brightest light in our life. ‘Ray’ is in honor of Craig’s father. He’s a great man of God and we both look up to him. We wanted her to carry on a legacy.”

Image Source: Johanna Morton
Image Source: Johanna Morton

At just six days old, Clara Ray was brought to Boston Children’s Hospital for her first open heart surgery. And finally, on July 21st, Johanna and Craig were able to bring their little girl home. And although there have been multiple hospital stays and diagnoses since then, one bright moment stood out for the new parents.

Johanna shared the amazing and heartwarming photos of little Clara Ray’s excitement witnessing her very first snowfall.

“Seeing her smile and stare at the snow with wonder, gave me so many mixed emotions,” Johanna told Babble. “I watched as she smiled and all I could think was this was the very moment we were told we wouldn’t see! … Time stood still. As if for a moment she wasn’t sick. As if we never have to worry and cry over the possibility of saying goodbye way too soon. My husband and I smiled at each other as if to say, ‘This moment will forever be remembered.’”

In just a couple days, Johanna’s post on the Love What Matters page received over 109k likes, 6k shares, and 4k comments of love and support for the Morton family.

The moment of joy helped Johanna and Craig forget, at least for a moment, about the growing list of Clara Ray’s diagnoses, including heart block, multiple congenital heart defects (CHDs), and Heterotaxy syndrome.

Image Source: Johanna Morton
Image Source: Johanna Morton

They’ve been warned by doctors that Clara Ray’s heart may not grow with her, so they’re cherishing every moment with her.

“CHD will always have an impact on her life. There is no cure. We will always thank God for another second, minute, hour … day with her!”

The Morton family has already received so much help from their family and friends, and they couldn’t be more thankful. They continue to pray for Clara Ray and ask for the support of others with their Facebook community “Prayers for Clara Ray.”

You have all of our support, Johanna, Craig, and brave little Clara Ray.

h/t: Daily Mail

Please Stop Referring to My Children as Orphans

Image Source: Mike Berry
Image Source: Mike Berry

I’m used to inappropriate comments.

In the 15 years we’ve been adoptive parents, I’ve heard them all.

“Are they ‘real’ brothers and sisters?”

“Can you not have kids of your own?”

“Do they know their ‘real’ mom and dad?”

“Are you going to tell her she’s adopted?” (My daughter is black.)

“Is their mom on crack or something? Is that why she couldn’t keep them?”

Yes, most of these have been blurted out in front of my children.

The comments come from people at the pharmacy, the gas station, the grocery story checkout line — even from neighbors. I used to think they meant well, but now (especially after correcting them and having them continue the questioning) I’m not so sure. And I’m positive the elderly man who pointed an angry finger at my three black children in a Wendy’s restaurant a few years back and barked, “I don’t understand all of this,” didn’t mean well — at all. Needless to say, he provided my wife and I lots of content to talk about ignorance and racism for the next hour.

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Yes, we’ve heard it all in our time as adoptive (and foster) parents. Some, moderately okay —  some, a genuine misunderstanding —and some, complete and total disrespect.

But there’s one comment I just can’t stand anymore. I’m fed up with it. I not only cringe when I hear it, I feel rage. I want to break something (and I’m not a violent person). It’s beyond ignorance. It’s even beyond disrespect. It’s uttered out of a total disregard for the heart of my children — yes, MY children. I’m THEIR parent. Keep that in mind as I tell you what this comment is.

You ready? Here goes …

“It’s so good that you’ve taken care of these orphans.”

There it is. The godfather of all inappropriate comments. Years ago, when my second oldest child was still in high school, a kid on her bus blurted out, “What are you, like an orphan or something?” Her response was to bluntly tell him, “NO, I live across the street from you, WITH MY PARENTS!” We cringed then when she came home and told us that he had said this. We chalked it up to another ignorant suburban kid who’s come from privilege.

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But lately, I’ve had this comment said to me. Several times, in fact, over the last few months. One time, in front of my youngest son. “It’s so good that you’ve taken care of these orphans. They sure do need parents.” I don’t think he heard, but I did. And I was visibly annoyed.

Why? Well, it’s simple.

MY CHILDREN AREN’T ORPHANS. They never have been. Yes, I adopted them, but they each have birth parents. Two of my kids have had birth __parents pass away in the years since joining our family, but they did not enter our home because they had no parents. They have birth parents, but they also have us — their parents. I’m my children’s father and my wife is my children’s mother.

So, I’m asking — no, scratch that — I’m begging you, any of you who have said this, or thought this, about my family, or another — please stop referring to my children as orphans. It’s confusing and offensive to them. If you don’t know what to say, don’t say anything. If you want to know what to say, ask us quietly (not in front of them) before blurting something out that may hurt one of my kids, or someone else’s.

That is all. I’m done. I’ve said all I need to say. Oh, but to the elderly man in the Wendy’s restaurant, I do have one thing:

STOP. For the love of all that’s good and right — stop!

Now … that is all.

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Funniest Parenting Tweets of the Week

Image Source: Babble
Image Source: Babble

If you’re a parent with a Twitter account, chances are you tweet about your kids — and often. Some of the things we’ve seen (the good, the bad, and the very, very ugly) are just begging to be shared, and who has the time for more than 140 characters? Not us. So here you go, the funniest tweets from __parents on Twitter this week. #yourewelcome

1. That’s ALWAYS what it is.

*hears 2yo in other room*

Hubs: What's he doing?

Me: I'm not sure, but if I had to guess, I'd say something I love is about to be broken.

— MyMomologue (@MyMomologue) November 22, 2016

2. Good comeback.

9: You're mean.
Me: Did you know kids with mean moms grow up to be strong and successful?
9: Then I'm gonna be a kajillionaire superstar.

— Kim Bongiorno (@LetMeStart) November 21, 2016

3. Crazy stuff.

Parent: please be quiet, some people sleep later than 8:30 in a hotel.
Kids: hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. Do they really?

— Mike Reynolds (@EverydayGirlDad) November 20, 2016

4. When your kid has had it with shopping.

CLOSE YOUR EYES, MOM!!!! DON'T LOOK AT ANYTHING!!! LET'S JUST LEAVE!!!!

– My 7 year old, holding an intervention while I'm shopping.

— Unfiltered Mama (@UnfilteredMama) November 20, 2016

5. Did you forget to be careful?

Me: Be careful! It's icy!
6yo: *is careful*
5yo: *is careful*
1yo: *is careful*
Me: *falls on my ass*

— Lurkin' Mom (@LurkAtHomeMom) November 21, 2016

6. Tater tots are the best.

Pretty disappointed to find out that "Toys for Tots" isn't a program where I trade my kids' toys for delicious tater tots.

— Abe Yospe (@Cheeseboy22) November 22, 2016

7. So much love.

Me, giving my 6yo a big hug: "Hey sweetheart, I love you so, SO much."

6yo: "Did you go running? Because you smell bad. Like, your skin."

— Kristen Mae (@AbandonPretense) November 20, 2016

8. Smart move.

Taking the kids to a fondue restaurant because their clothes don't have enough food stains.

— Rodney Lacroix (@moooooog35) November 22, 2016

9. Husbands are so helpful.

When one door closes, another opens. Then another five doors plus two drawers open, and stay that way.
— My husband emptying the dishwasher

— Housewife of Hell (@HousewifeOfHell) November 21, 2016

10. Mom brain is a real thing, guys.

You know you are a Mom when you constantly ask yourself, "why did I come in this room?"

— It'sReally10Months (@really10months) November 18, 2016

11. Suckers.

Kids: haha you have to work and we don't have school today

Me *closing the front door* I changed the wifi password. Love you guys!

— Rock (@TheMichaelRock) November 23, 2016

12. Well that’s super creepy.

Get your kids to stay in bed by taping a walkie talkie to your elf on the shelf's back and whispering, "He sees you when you're sleeping."

— Mommy Cusses (@mommy_cusses) November 23, 2016

13. It’s kind of really entertaining to watch.

Peewee soccer is composed of:

50% determination
50% kicking it out of bounds
0% teamwork

— Andy Herald (@AndyHerald) November 20, 2016

14. Oh, the irony.

"I'm only going to say this once" is something that I like to say 8 or 9 times a day.

— ReasonsMySonIsCrying (@ReasonsMySonCry) November 20, 2016

15. That’s going to be tough to find at Walmart.

3yo's Christmas list

Underpants
A red snowboard with steering wheel
A real dinosaur I can take to the moon
9 candy canes

Good luck Santa

— Karen Johnson (@21stcenturysahm) November 20, 2016

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70 Kids Find Forever Families After Iowa City Holds Annual “Adoption Day”

This story is a part of Babble’s #7DaysofGoodness series, where we’re gathering feel-good stories to help bring a smile to your day. Find them all here.

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November is the month where we pause to give thanks for the good things in our lives. The turkey, cranberries, and pumpkin pie and all the other yummy-ness that inspires us to wear our super-stretchy pants to the dinner table might take center stage, but the underlying message is one of gratitude. It might seem like a Pollyanna-ish way of looking at life, but I’ve always believed that no matter how tough things get you can always find that silver lining and something to be thankful for.

Along with Thanksgiving, November is also the month we celebrate adoption. November is established as National Adoption Awareness Month by presidential proclamation. Is it a coincidence that we celebrate adoption and thankfulness during the same month? Maybe. As a mom who’s become a mom through adoption, I like to think it’s more than coincidence. At any rate, being a mom is at the top of my list of things I’m thankful for.

And I’m not alone.

If the news you’ve seen floating through your social media feed this month has left you feeling defeated, deflated, angry, or worried, then you need to watch this video. Just trust me.

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A judge in Des Moines, Iowa, had the honor of presiding over 70 adoptions on a recent November “Adoption Day.” Adoption Day is a day of joy in this courtroom, and many of the typical anxieties we might associate with entering a courthouse are absent. There’s no stress over verdicts, sentences, or fines. There are teddy bears, noisy children, balloons, and happy families celebrating becoming families.

And, this extraordinary courtroom is presided over by an extraordinary judge.

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Judge Robert Blake gives a whole new meaning to “taking your work home.” Judge Blake makes each child appearing in court during Adoption Day a wooden car in his home workshop. What started as a stress-relieving hobby has turned into a labor of love that results in a tangible memento of family. Judge Blake spent over 24 hours hand-crafting 50 toys for this year’s Adoption Day. He posed for pictures with smiling families, wore silly hats, and in general, conducted himself in a very un-judicial matter.

Don’t you love it?

“It’s amazing that he would take all that time to make a car for every single kid who came in here today,” remarked one parent.

The judge was quick to overrule that new dad’s statement.

“It pales in comparison to what these __parents are doing for these children,” says Judge Blake. “Toys create a smile but adoption creates a family.”

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The families who finalized their adoptions in Judge Blake’s courtroom will no doubt have these moments stored in their memory bank forever. When they pause on Thanksgiving this year and in years to come, they’ll remember that day and that moment … and thanks to a judge that “gets it,” they’ll have a keepsake that will remind them of how they became a family.

Adoption is a bittersweet celebration. My children are a blessing in my life that I’m thankful for every day, but I fully realize that my family’s blessing stems from another family’s loss. I’ve never been in Judge Blake’s courtroom, but I know exactly how those __parents feel. Every detail of my own sons’ Adoption Days are forever etched in my memory. I’m thankful for the opportunity to be a mom — every single sleepless, sticky, stepping on LEGOs minute of it. Judge Blake’s enormous heart is surely something the parents in this video are thankful for this year.

Okay, maybe not the part about the LEGOs … those mothers hurt.

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9-Year-Old Boy Creates Incredible Handmade Costumes Based on Famous Characters

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Meet Parker Watson: talented costume designer, master pretender, and all-around incredible 9-year-old, who sparks imagination one Instagram post at a time.

The adorable 3rd-grader regularly dresses up in homemade costumes — channeling everyone from Harry Potter to the Grinch — and poses for photos that his mom uploads under her Instagram handle, @fourplusanangel.

There’s no question Parker’s something special; magic found a home in him from the very beginning.

Born at 28 weeks gestation and weighing only 1 lb., 14 oz., Parker’s tenacious spirit was known throughout his three-month NICU stay. In the years that followed, his light continued to shine bright.

Ever since he was a toddler, Parker’s been a performer. According to his mom, writer Jessica Watson of Four Plus an Angel and author of the upcoming children’s book, Soon, Parker used to stage his very own Wiggles concerts in the family basement. As his passion for performing grew, so did his interest in costumes. Speaking with Babble, Parker shared how his creative process began:

“When I started seeing images of people in movies and plays when I was little, I started liking the costumes more and more until I liked the costumes so much that I figured I would try to make the costume myself. I would just look for pieces of anything in our house to make my costumes and POOF! I would make a costume.”

When asked how much help Parker receives with his costumes, his mom assures Babble that she’s “only here to take the pictures and make sure he doesn’t burn himself with the hot glue gun.”

While pretend is seriously fun, for Parker, it’s also serious business. At age 7 he auditioned for his first play, and now, two years later, he’s heading into his fifth and sixth plays (at the same time)! And he doesn’t just love acting, he’s also tried ballet and even auditioned for The Nutcracker.

As for dreams, Parker’s got a few. Dressed as Willy Wonka, he tells us:

“When I grow up I want to be an actor in plays or in movies. I want to get a fancy sewing machine and learn to make more and more costumes for the whole cast of every show I am in. Performing makes me feel happy and energetic. I have made a lot of friends from theater and I never like to have a week without being in a play.”

Parker’s happy and energetic feelings might just be contagious. When asked what it feels like to watch her son perform, Watson cheered:

“[I feel] like my heart is going to burst. He’s always been on the quieter side but when he gets on stage all his shyness falls away and he just shines. He’s also pretty small for his age so seeing my little guy up there holding his own with the big kids is pretty special.”

And his confidence really shines through on social media. Watson went on to explain:

“#Parkerpretends has been a way for me to show him that his passion is important to me and to others. When he turned 8 I felt like he was at a critical age where he would either decide making and wearing costumes wasn’t cool or he would have enough confidence to keep on going. The older he gets and the more he continues the more I exhale in knowing he’s staying true to himself … I hope it shows others that boys can have just as much fun in creative fields as they can in the athletic world and if you encourage them there’s no limit to what their minds can come up with.”

And to think this is only Parker’s opening act!

In honor of Prematurity Awareness Month, we asked Watson what Parker thought about Soon, her upcoming children’s book that tells the story of a premature baby’s journey from birth to NICU and into childhood:

“He loves it. We’ve always told him he was a preemie but Soon gives him a concrete story to understand his journey. He is one of 28-week triplets and has a little brother who was a preemie too so I purposely designed the book so the main character could be a boy or a girl but my kids are always debating over which one of them I REALLY wrote the book about. Every time he reads it he gives me a little smile and says, ‘It’s about me, isn’t it?’ I love that my shy guy thinks he’s the star of the show.”

He has our standing ovation!

Follow Parker’s rising star @fourplusanangel #parkerpretends.

Indiana Farming Community Rallies Around Family Who Lost 4-Year-Old in Tragic Accident

Many of us don’t think about it, but while we are sitting down to eat on Thanksgiving, somewhere far away (or maybe not so far away) a farmer has been working hard to provide us with that food.

Before winter hits, farmers work around-the-clock to harvest their fields with crops of wheat, corn, sugar beets, and more. The harvest stops for nothing, because without it, we don’t eat. If the crops are left in the ground too long, they will be ruined, a farmer will lose income, and we all will lose food. Over the past few months, I’ve watched my own husband stumble in at 2 and 3 AM, exhausted from helping at his family’s farm. I couldn’t be more proud of his efforts — and the efforts of all farmers — for the work they do to provide for us all.

The harvest time is supposed to be a time of celebration, when the hard work is done and the farmers can wipe their brows after working around the clock to get their crops safely from the fields.

But in one small town in Indiana, the harvest this year is a time of mourning.

On November 5, while her grandfather Steve Wollyung was getting ready to finish the last of his 112 acres on his farm in Connersville, Indiana, four-year-old Ayla Wollyung was playing in a grain wagon. Tragically, she became trapped in the wagon and could not get out. She was airlifted to Cincinnati Children’s Hospital and later passed away from her injuries.

Image Source: Sarah VanWinkle Wollyung
Image Source: Sarah VanWinkle Wollyung

Playing in grain wagons is a common occurrence for children on a farm and no one could have predicted that such a loss would hit their family.

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According to her obituary, Ayla Lou, a little sister to two big brothers and daughter of Cory and Sarah, was a fearless four-year-old who loved coloring, American Girl dolls, making messes, getting dirty outside, picking flowers, and “dressing up like the princess she was.”

At her Celebration of Life service, Ayla’s family asked attendees to dress in bright colors to honor Ayla’s love of glitz and glamour, an outward sign of the bright light that she was to everyone.

Image Source: Sarah VanWinkle Wollyung
Image Source: Sarah VanWinkle Wollyung

Grieving for their granddaughter, Steve’s wife Carmen was surprised when she received a phone call from family friend Tara Henry, who wondered if the Wollyungs had been able to finish their harvesting in the midst of everything. Carmen told Henry that they still had over 100 acres to harvest but that “they weren’t sure how they were going to get it all done.”

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The Wollyung family just simply wasn’t able to get the work done in the midst of their heartbreak. But thankfully, as is the way of the farming community, their neighbors were there to lend a helping hand. Or in this case, many helping hands. And some semi trucks. And a lot of tractors.

Henry made some calls, word quickly spread about a family in need, and all in all, over 60 farmers from several counties gathered together on November 12 to help harvest the Wollyhung’s field. Around 10 AM, the farmers gathered together, bowed their heads in prayer — and got to work.

Image Source: Alyson Cochran
Image Source: Alyson Cochran

More friends, family, neighbors, and even strangers donated sandwiches, soups, drinks, and snacks to help the farmers get their work done. And with many hands making light work, they were able to harvest 18,463 bushels by 5 PM that day, a task that would have taken Wollyhung over a week to finish on his own.

“I couldn’t believe it when I saw everyone show up to help,” the shocked farmer and grandfather told Fox8. “All of the support and the number of people wanting to help is just overwhelming. It was emotional to see everyone. Whatever we needed, they brought.”

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Those who helped said that they were glad to be able to give back something to Wollyhung, a man known for his own hardworking spirit, kindness, and generosity in the community.

Image Source: Alyson Cochran
Image Source: Alyson Cochran

“He’s a very honest, stand up guy, and just a good community member,” said Nathan Williamson, one of the farmers who helped haul grain in his own semi truck. “I was talking with some other people at the farm and we all seem to agree that the worst things happen to the best people.”

Family and friends are reeling from the loss and doing everything they can to help support those in Alya’s life. One family friend had a co-worker create T-shirts and other memorabilia with the words “Fly High, Ayla” written on them — words that have come to describe the little girl’s life.

Image Source: Sarah Wollyburg
Image Source: Sarah VanWnkle Wollyung

As the Wollyhung family joins together in their grief, they are also joining together in gratitude for a community that has stood behind them in their time of need. They hope to honor Alya’s memory and also raise some awareness to help keep other young children safe on the family farms that make life possible for so many of us.

“When I’m strong enough I’ll [tell] Ayla’s story of how she knew she was going to heaven, but I’m much too weak right now for that,” Ayla’s mother Sarah told Babble. “I miss her so much.”

A GoFundme has been set up to help Ayla’s family with funeral expenses, if you would like to donate in her memory. 

Nov 22, 2016

86-Year-Old Man Learns to Knit to Make Hats for Preemies

Image Source: Dogwood Forest Assisted Living
Image Source: Dogwood Forest Assisted Living

“86-Year-Old Man Learns to Knit to Make Hats for Preemies” originally appeared on ABC News and was reprinted with permission.

More than 300 preemie babies in the NICU at Northside Hospital in Atlanta are sleeping more cozily thanks to the efforts of an 86-year-old man.

Ed Moseley, a resident at Dogwood Forest Assisted Living in Acworth, Georgia, taught himself to knit so he could make precious, warm hats to donate to the babies this holiday season.

“I prevailed on my daughter to get a kit, and it comes with the right size loom and the right tools to help you knit one,” Moseley told ABC News. “I just followed the instructions. It was easy. Somehow I had never knitted, and I always associated knitting with a bunch of needles but this looked pretty doable for me. I went through two or three before I came out with a good finished product.”

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By the time he was finished, he had personally knitted 55 colorful, comfortable baby caps in response to his living community’s challenge to knit as many hats as possible for the hospital.

“Our corporate office gave us a challenge to see how many knit baby caps each community could make,” JoAn Hobbs, the facility’s executive director, explained. “The goal was 200 caps for the entire eight communities, but it seems that Dogwood Forest was the only one to really participate.”

Moseley is largely to thank for that. As a recently retired engineer, he excitedly took on the challenge and even held classes for his fellow residents to get them inspired, as well.

Image Source: Northside Hospital Atlanta
Image Source: Northside Hospital Atlanta

“I must be a lousy instructor because I didn’t get many takers,” he laughed.

But with the help of one of his caretakers, other staff, friends and family, Moseley had more than 300 hand-knitted caps to present to the NICU Thursday, and the __parents of those preemies couldn’t have been more appreciative of the heartwarming gesture.

“It means a lot to us because this is our second stint in the NICU,” said Doug Bunt, who welcomed his youngest son, Matthew, on Nov. 12. “We have a 5-year-old who spent 54 days up there. To know there are other people who are thinking about the well-being of these babies, our babies, it’s really nice to know. The fact this man is taking time out of his day to help the kids really means a lot to us.”

As for the staff at Northside Hospital, who care for about 2,000 premature infants each year, “It’s great to receive these wonderful gifts,” Linda Kelly, clinical manager of the special care nursery, said.

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“To have a gift left at the bedside, or a nurse put the hat on the little baby’s head, makes it all seem less like a hospital,” she continued. “It’s important for families to see their baby as a baby and not as a patient. This will help to get the families to that spot.”

Moseley was glad for the opportunity to work on something while he enjoys his other favorite pastime — watching golf on TV.

“When someone appreciates something you do, that makes you feel good, naturally,” he said. “I got a lot of enjoyment doing this and now I’ve graduated to large caps. I’m doing caps for all my grandkids.”